LEARNING TO LOVE MYSELF

Ever since I can remember, I have always wanted to find that "amazing love" that movies like Titanic, The Proposal, The Vow and Sex in the City amongst many others show. That look in the eyes while he says "I love you", the long walk by the beach, romantic dinner, stolen kisses, cooking together kind of love. That kind of love that people call cliché or idealist love, that one. That's me J

I have had a glimpse into that kind of love and it only came about in the first years of dating to a point where my partners said what I was asking for was impossible. That statement always baffled me as in the first years of dating, all they did was give me that kind of love to a few years down the drain the, "it's impossible" statement? I mean, how did you do it in the first years then?

*Woosa* 

It lead to a point where I thought, maybe I'm asking for too much. I mean you can't keep doing the same thing every day, every year, right? Wrong. You can (if you want to) and it's called consistency. 

I believe that true love does exist but it starts from within, not from another person. All the love that a person can ever ask/want/is looking for, is within. You only need to look and search within for it. I realized that I need to love myself in a way that completes and fulfills me that when the next person doesn't love me the way I want to be loved, I'm not upset by it because I LOVED myself first. Does that make sense? (YES/NO)? Let me break it down.

So many of us are out here looking for a man/woman to complete us and make us happy. We believe that in marriage, that's where our happiness lies as being a wife/husband and a mother/father and it's such a trap for many of us, both males and females out there. Society doesn't help as well by putting pressure on us by asking questions like "when are you getting married, time is ticking you know?". Well, tell me something I don't know.

So I decided to start a 30 DAY JOURNEY TO LOVE MYSELF. Here's how I'm doing it; 

1.Accept myself - It is OK to be me. I don't have to be someone I'm not to make the next person happy (especially a partner).

2. Spend time with me - read a book, watch the sunset, take myself out on a date (to the Spa and even on an adventure trip). Just me, myself and I.

3. Spoil myself - buy roses for myself and have them delivered with a note that says "You are beautiful and sexy" (or something like that) J

4. Try new things often - like hiking, going for a fashion show, wine tasting.

5. Spend tons of time with Friends and Family -  one thing I do when I'm in a relationship is "push away" my family and friends and focusing all of me to my partner. That hasn't gone well for me because I ended up being single. I gave my all to the wrong person and neglected those who deserve it. A man must fight to keep you EVERY DAY, even when dating (at-least that's my opinion).

6. Invest in myself (body) -  eat healthy (take cooking lessons for the fun of it), exercise regularly, discover things about my body (what products work for my body in terms of hair, face etc).

7. Invest in myself (career) -  study more, learn more, explore more, ask more, invent more.

I don't know how this is going to go, I might not stick to it all the way because I'm human but I'm committing myself to it. This is a journey that I want to last above the 30 days but for now, I'm going to take it a day at a time. I will post each day as I go J